Inspired by more than one comment on the post that this post links to
, I'm finally going to weigh in on the whole anti-PC, thought-police, this-word-has-another-meaning-and-no-
one-can-own-a-word, I-don't have-to-change-simply-because-you're-
offended school of thought.
I'm going to begin by saying that I'm guilty of using pretty much every word that is at issue at one point or another, some as recently as last year, so I'm not saying that I'm not in a glass house here.
For those who are against changing their language to remove certain words from their vocabularies because another person is offended by it, I ask the following question:
Who does it hurt?
Seriously, who does it hurt to make the effort not to use words that others have found offensive? I know that it's an effort to do so, so I guess someone could argue that it's hurting them by virtue of the fact that changing one's vocabulary and deleting certain words is hella difficult... Well, I have to say that it's more difficult in the offline world, but online? It's as easy as being careful of what one types. I realize that for some, who type as quickly as they think, that could be a challenge, but seriously? Who does it hurt? Why is it such a big deal to just not be an asshat when someone asks you to do so?( Cut for possible triggers and an incomplete list of incredibly offensive slurs that everyone should know not to use. Ever. )
And because I've been educating myself a bunch lately, here are a bunch of links that all say all of this a lot better than I just did.101 Primer
' entire journal.
Read all of that and then come back to discuss, if you wish, :).
ETA: Proof that not being an asshat is an ongoing battle: Weak is ableist
. Thank you to 51stcenturyfox
for letting me know, :).
ETA 2: My comment thread on the post that started all of this is here
ETA 3: Drama communities are probably not the best place to start, lol, but if it were not for them I never would have found most of this stuff out, which is why I mentioned them. The best place to start is with the 101 Primer
and go from there, :).
This post has now been edited because my essential message was being lost and I was doing more harm than good by defending my position on one phrase. Most of the comments regarding that phrase have now been screened. I'm not a PoC, so my feelings on that phrase don't matter whatsoever and continuing to argue about it only detracts from the essential point of what I was trying to say.
I apologize for the drama.
For the record I am US-born, white, queer though I easily pass for both female and straight, and able-bodied. I have no personal experience with physical, racial or ethnic discrimination and I apologize for speaking for those groups as if I were personally invested in those particular slurs not being used.
The areas in which I have personal experience and/or a personal investment include: feminism/sexim, sex work, body image/food, sexual freedom, BGLTQP rights/homophobia, bullying, child abuse, the US foster care system, the US health care system, PTSD, anxiety, depression and mental health.