If You're On facebook

Please, just assume that everything there is public unless you've gone in and CHANGED YOUR ACCOUNT AND PRIVACY SETTINGS so that either no one can see things, or only your friends can see them.

Remember, facebook right now is a FREE SITE for most users that makes its money by using the information that you provide and by selling ads.  If you don't want your information everywhere, LOCK IT DOWN.

Or, y'know, don't use facebook.

I only mention this because I was just reading yet another "facebook is evil"- type post and realized that it's not facebook that's evil.  It's people being stupid with their information online that's wrong.  facebook is simply using every resource that YOU'VE GIVEN IT.  

Personally, I really like facebook.  It's allowed me to connect with people that I haven't seen in years and is generally great fun to play around on and I don't even play any of the games, :).  But I assume that everything that I post might be seen by anyone, anywhere because, y'know IT'S THE BLOODY INTERNET!

Sorry to scream here, I just get tired of seeing all of these big 'privacy concerns' about pretty much every site that I frequent when pretty much all of them have settings that allow you to make your stuff PRIVATE.  It's just that the defaults are set to 'public' and most people don't take the time to actually change them, which ISN'T FACEBOOK'S FAULT.

IMHO, naturally, :).  And I'm sure that there's at least one setting that's more evil than I realize and that someone will tell me about it - that's what I get for making sweeping generalizations.  I'm just tired of people blaming facebook (and many, many other sites) for their own lack of care with their personal information.

My First Flame

So, um, yeah.

I was skimming my flist for something to read when I came across this author's note: "This story is FICTION I do not wish to glorify or support the lifestyle depicted in it. It was written for pleasure and posted for entertainment purposes only."

Naturally, I just had to know what 'lifestyle' shouldn't be glorified or supported and that's when I got into trouble.  I'll let the comment I sent explain.
( Cut for length. )

Never in a million years did I ever think that I would be this mean to any author in a comment, but I've found that lately I just can't let any hint of dehumanization of sex workers slide.  What I do isn't a 'lifestyle', it's a fucking job.  A job that basically gets no respect whatsoever and is doomed to be on the fringes of society.  

Maybe this labels me 'oversensitive'.  After all, it's only an author's note, right?  An author's note that I found dehumanizing and wrong.  And again, it was probably as I said in the comment - some moralist asshole gave this author shit about writing about prostitution and so they felt the need to put up a note about it.  Too bad that they posted it publicly where someone on the other side of the fence could be offended by it.  

And there's a (very) slim possibility that I'm misconstruing this completely and the lifestyle they were talking about glorifying was that of shopping for overpriced items on Rodeo Drive (that was the chapter where the note first appeared).  If that's the case, I'll apologize.  But I somehow, I doubt it, :(.

Just a reminder, my facebook group is Abolish Slavery - Legalize Prostitution and if you can see this you're welcome to join and invite your friends, :).  Remember - sex workers are people too! :)

I was going to lock this because I know that the author can be identified fairly easily if someone cares to look.  However, I'm really tired of having to hide what I do and/or spare the feelings of those who look down on me and mine for doing it. 

Sex workers have been around since humans first had the mental capacity to trade sex for another commodity.  Treating as something dirty, immoral or wrong IS wrong and I'm tired of being made to feel ashamed for standing up for those who are in my industry because it IS so on the fringes.  We're human beings who should have the right to do as we please with our bodies.  Period.

I've Made A Lot Of New Friends Lately

So I'd like to let everyone know, through a shameless bit of self-pimpage, that I have three communities that y'all might be interested in, :).

The first, my baby, is trauma_rec_fic, which is a community for trauma recovery in fiction, so if you like hurt/comfort and trauma recovery stories, this is the place for you.

The second, clues4clueless, contains little things that, for the most part, I didn't learn until I was an adult.  All of them were things that I feel that everyone either should know or might like to know, which is why I'm sharing them, :).

The third, recs_by_teleen, is basically a place for me to rec all of my favorite stories that for whatever reason I didn't feel were appropriate for trauma_rec_fic.  So far, there's mostly crack! and hurt/comfort WIP's there, though they'll be a fairly wide variety there as time passes, :).  Basically, it's a place for me to rec every story that I've ever liked, :).

If you can see this post, but not this post, it means that you've friended me and I haven't friended you back.  If you'd like for me to do so, please just leave a comment that you're over 18 and I will, :).  

Why Dr. Laura Is A Racist (And It's Not Because Of The N-Word)

If the woman who was calling had been white with a white husband, or if the woman had never mentioned her race and and simply said, "My husband's friends call me names," I guarantee that her advice to the woman would have been different.   She would have said that her husband should be defending her and that he needed better friends.

Instead, she told the woman that if she didn't have a thick enough skin then she "shouldn't have married outside her race."

End of argument. 

Why I love the Daily Show.

Silliness

Considering that I've never crossed the Atlantic and know everything that I know about the UK from movies and British TV, this isn't bad...


I am 50% British, just like
Hugh Grant
Thought you drive a British sports car you are most likely to have a blowout in LA.

Take the Brit Quiz at
darrenlondon.tripod.com/britquiz1.htm
Quiz written by Daz

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