Healthy Is Beautiful

[teleen_fiction]

One of the women with whom I work just posted a gorgeous picture of herself.  I was all set to 'like' it and then saw her comment underneath, in which she said she looked like a cow.  I commented as to how beautiful she looked and chastised her for saying that about herself.

If one more healthy woman on my friends' list says she's fat, I will not be held responsible for my reaction. 

I really hate it when women (and men, don't get me wrong) denigrate themselves and their bodies in this way.  It hurts me a lot because I don't have a wholly healthy relationship with food (though I'm beginning to wonder if ANY Western woman does) and I sometimes 'feel fat' because of it.

Even though I know I'm not.  Even though I know I'm healthy.  Some of it's my job, but even so - I hate it when anyone ties their self-worth to how much they weigh or what they look like.  It's so... fleeting.

And yes, I know that I'm speaking from a position of incredible privilege here as a Western beautiful white woman, but I can still think this sucks and I do.  

Also, I really wish that LJ had a 'disgusted' mood.  I find myself constantly looking for it...

Comments

[teleens-journal.livejournal.com]

IAWTC

It still upsets me when I see things like this, though, :(.

OT - Icon LOVE!

[iceshade.livejournal.com]

OT: You can write whatever mood you want in the little box next to the mood choice. If you know what the picture's going to be, (for, say, "sick" if it's appropriate)

I just don't get it, if she's not please with how she looks, why did she post it?

[teleens-journal.livejournal.com]

Oh, I know I can write the mood in, I just want a *picture* there with it /whine, ;).

I just don't get it, if she's not please with how she looks, why did she post it?

FSM might know. I have no clue, :(.

[meshell-mybell.livejournal.com]

I am a big girl. I'm not obese but I've got meat on me. My reasons for trying to lose weight are only so I'm healthy for my kids. I'm actually happy with how I look and I love my curves. I'll never be a model and I'm good with that.

I agree, it bothers me to see beautiful women (and men) talking crap about their appearance. They post these images and complain. In my opinion, it's for the attention they get. 'Oh, poor me, I'm so ugly/fat.' 'No you aren't.' 'Oh, yes I am! It's a game.' It's a game, whether it is a concious thought or not. Their self-esteem is so low and/or they're just trying to pry compliments to make themselves feel better instead of waiting for the compliments to come naturally.

My sister is like that. She is beautiful, tiny and petite and she is always telling people she's fat and ugly. I refuse to give in. I just ignore her because she's a size 2 and looks like a Barbie doll. I'm not mean, I tell her she looks good only when she isn't fishing for it.

[teleens-journal.livejournal.com]

I like how your mind works, :).

She's a really sweet woman, so I'd hate to think that she was just doing it for the attention. I tend to believe in the low self-esteem part, :(. The reason it bugged me so much is that IMHO, she's the prettiest woman who works at our club and if she's not happy with how she looks, then IDEK, sigh.

[opalexian.livejournal.com]

WOULD YOU LIKE A TASTE OF MY COTTAGE CHEESE THIGHS?




...yes, I had to say it here too. I await the billion 'ew's from you >; 3

[teleens-journal.livejournal.com]

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