If you are for the rights of women, and childern, (and all those who are not cis-gendered and/or hetero male, and the same for the rest of the list below)
If you are for equal or commiserate pay for women,
If you are for showing the value of importance of "women's work,"
If you are against the abuse and disempowerment of women and children,
If you are against the disenfranchising of women and children because they do not bear a man's last name,
If you are against racism, bigotry, and homophobia, and firmly believe in all human rights,
Do not support man-bashing (which I despise)
You are a feminist. Female = woman Feminist = pro-woman no matter who she is, where she is, and what she does.
Feminism is NOT anti-stay at home mom, NOT anti-housewife, NOT anti-sex worker. All else is propaganda or poor example. The ones you speak of are NOT the only feminists, and because they do not defend women in beauty pageants, sex work, or look down at housewives, they are not true feminists.
Feminists are the ones who started the research into the true value of housewives in hourly pay at a living wage. It came out to be a hefty yearly sum. And that does not count the physical wear and tear of bearing children and being mom, stay at home, or working. Feminists are the ones who raised the consciousness of sharing chores when inflation (not feminism) started the upwards creep on the cost of living that forced both husband and wife to work (or both partners to not be exclusive on definitions.)
A dear friend of mine entered a traditional religion and order, and married within it. Their order dictates that the man is head of household, and he directs everything in the house and family. She is very much a feminist, she is strong, outspoken, and hasn't any trouble with what I see feminism as, because we have extensively discussed these matters and agree. She entered practice and counsels abused women because she has been there herself. Her husband is very supportive and very understanding of women.
I see Teleen as very much a feminist, and her calling and her love of it, and her entries describing her work, adds a rich dimension to feminist studies. I have always condemned the stigma attached to sex workers, and I have always condemned those "self identified" feminists who fail to defend sex workers and and failing to defend women in other areas such as beauty pageants. Mike Tyson's abused wife, for one.
If you think feminism is what is limiting your choices and forcing couples to live on two incomes, think again. It is not fightng for equal rights for women that did it, it is oppurtunist men and commercialism that did it. Blaming feminists and feminism for destroying a woman's chances for being a stay at home wife and/or mom is the gatekeeper mentality -victim blaming. If you think I am not familiar with your stance on the subject, you have made a very poor assumption. I come from a very conservative background and used to believe the same way, that feminism has ruined my chances for happiness being a stay at home mom. But with deeper investigation, I found this is not the case. True feminists are NOT against housewives and stay at home moms. I know this after years of feminist study and study in finances.
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Date: 2010-10-02 06:42 pm (UTC)If you are for equal or commiserate pay for women,
If you are for showing the value of importance of "women's work,"
If you are against the abuse and disempowerment of women and children,
If you are against the disenfranchising of women and children because they do not bear a man's last name,
If you are against racism, bigotry, and homophobia, and firmly believe in all human rights,
Do not support man-bashing (which I despise)
You are a feminist. Female = woman Feminist = pro-woman no matter who she is, where she is, and what she does.
Feminism is NOT anti-stay at home mom, NOT anti-housewife, NOT anti-sex worker. All else is propaganda or poor example. The ones you speak of are NOT the only feminists, and because they do not defend women in beauty pageants, sex work, or look down at housewives, they are not true feminists.
Feminists are the ones who started the research into the true value of housewives in hourly pay at a living wage. It came out to be a hefty yearly sum. And that does not count the physical wear and tear of bearing children and being mom, stay at home, or working. Feminists are the ones who raised the consciousness of sharing chores when inflation (not feminism) started the upwards creep on the cost of living that forced both husband and wife to work (or both partners to not be exclusive on definitions.)
A dear friend of mine entered a traditional religion and order, and married within it. Their order dictates that the man is head of household, and he directs everything in the house and family. She is very much a feminist, she is strong, outspoken, and hasn't any trouble with what I see feminism as, because we have extensively discussed these matters and agree. She entered practice and counsels abused women because she has been there herself. Her husband is very supportive and very understanding of women.
I see Teleen as very much a feminist, and her calling and her love of it, and her entries describing her work, adds a rich dimension to feminist studies. I have always condemned the stigma attached to sex workers, and I have always condemned those "self identified" feminists who fail to defend sex workers and and failing to defend women in other areas such as beauty pageants. Mike Tyson's abused wife, for one.
If you think feminism is what is limiting your choices and forcing couples to live on two incomes, think again. It is not fightng for equal rights for women that did it, it is oppurtunist men and commercialism that did it. Blaming feminists and feminism for destroying a woman's chances for being a stay at home wife and/or mom is the gatekeeper mentality -victim blaming.
If you think I am not familiar with your stance on the subject, you have made a very poor assumption. I come from a very conservative background and used to believe the same way, that feminism has ruined my chances for happiness being a stay at home mom. But with deeper investigation, I found this is not the case. True feminists are NOT against housewives and stay at home moms. I know this after years of feminist study and study in finances.